Evaluate your bond with your spouse. Once you have moved past the initial emotional shock of discovering the affair, you should take some time to think about your overall bond with your spouse. Consider how your values line up and if you can both still find common ground about the future. It’s important that you both have shared goals moving forward.
- Are you both on the same page regarding family, finances, and the future?
- Does your spouse make you happy?
- Do you still want the relationship to work? If so, do you see a future for you both?
- Are you still sexually attracted to your spouse?
- Do you both set and accomplish goals together?
- Do you both enjoy spending time together?
