We are drawn to people who have traits that we like about ourselves and the traits we lack.
This rule has always worked even though few people really think about it. It consists of 2 simple parts:
- We like people who have the same traits that we like about ourselves.
- We like people who have positive traits that outweigh the things we dislike about ourselves. Let’s look at this simple example: there is a cute girl who is proud of her appearance but dislikes the fact that she is too insecure. And then she meets a guy is just as attractive but he is also charismatic and confident. So confident that he compensates her insecurity. This mix of specific traits makes his a perfect match for her because they are similar and different at the same time, making each other complete.