You and a coworker–or, for that matter, a relative, partner, or friend–had a falling out. The wounds are still fresh. You’re still angry. And every time you see or even think of that person, you seethe. Maybe plenty of time has gone by since the incident, but you just can’t seem to get over it. Here’s what you can do.To get past your anger, it helps to understand what anger really is. Feelings are generated by what’s called the “motivational system.” They’re a way of helping you gauge how effectively your goals are being met. And it’s how you interpret those feelings that creates an emotional experience.