9 Things You Should Never Do Over Text Message

Cancel a date

Sometimes mustering up enough courage to go on a first date (or even a third one) is a feat in itself. But if you feel the urge to bail, whether you’ve met someone more interesting or you just feel like ghosting, pick up the phone, Spira says. “If someone is excited about the date and you say, ‘I have to cancel, sorry,’ it sends a message that you swiped right on a cuter option. Unless you know you’re going to reschedule—then you can say, ‘Something came up but I’d really love to reschedule. How’s Tuesday or Saturday?’ That way they know that they haven’t been deleted yet,” she explains. “Sometimes life gets in the way, but showing you want to move the relationship forward is a digital act of good faith.”