There’s a reason why we were given two ears and one mouth. In some cases, the more you talk, the more it’s like adding gasoline to an open fire. Remove the source of combustion, and the flame will die down, giving both of you a chance to regroup and rethink how you want to approach your problems. Spouses who are angry or scared will lash out and have a tendency to make sure their point of view is heard loud and clear. Other times, all they want to do is vent and that will make them feel better. One way to solve problems is to let the other spouse do the talking and verbally work things out while you remain silent and attentive.
