Counseling can reveal those nasty edges of a marriage. Even more important, a therapist can unearth these things is a non-threatening way and give you strategies to start to fix what may be broken. The thing about counseling is that you have to be committed to the process and be willing to put in the work. If you go in there with the attitude that “I’m only reluctantly doing this because my spouse is making me,” then why bother going. Therapy can be a surprising experience, helping you to put labels and meanings to destructive behaviors. Once identified, it’s much easier to work on them and change those behaviors for the better. And if you’re balking about therapy because of the cost, take a step back and consider what the financial cost of a divorce will be.
