Think about whether you would say the same thing to a friend. You may be much harder on yourself than you would be to a friend or loved one. When you find yourself thinking that you’re unattractive, consider whether you would criticize the same things in a friend. If you wouldn’t say that to someone you love, why would you say it to yourself?
- For example, if you are bothered by your weight, then you might look at yourself in the mirror and think "I’m so fat and ugly, nobody will ever think I’m attractive." It’s unlikely that you would say that to a friend or family member. You probably don’t judge or even notice your loved ones’ weight. Give yourself the same compassion you give others.
