Surround yourself with your loved ones My husband passed away; what do I do? My wife is gone, and I feel so empty. If you have ever had these thoughts, you are not alone. Moving on after the death of a spouse is possible! Those who are grieving often feel lost when thinking of moving on after the death of their spouse. One of the best things you can do is surround yourself with a support system. Research shows that those undergoing trauma experienced lowered psychological distress when receiving emotional support from friends and family. Learning to accept the death of a spouse takes time. Make it easier by surrounding yourself with trusted loved ones.