However, my life without him is even harder. It is as if I am walking in a field covered with mines and I have no idea when one will go off. We were married for 22 years; however it felt like it was 50.""Yes, it was my fate," states Süha Arafat, who lost her husband on November 11th, 2004. "I believe that our fate is written when we are born. I believe in the Koran. You cannot change your life. My joint destiny with Arafat started long before, in 1986-87.