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Validation is not: Saying “you’ll be fine” or “at least you’re young” or “it can’t be that bad” or “but you don’t look sick.” Validation is: Saying “I understand that *insert chronic illness* can be debilitating. I can’t imagine what it’s like, but I am here to support you in your journey” or “I notice how hard you work toward your health! I am proud of you.” Recognize our achievements, but please note that we are not your inspiration porn. Please do not tell me that my misfortune in life inspires you to live a better life because you never know when or if your health will take a turn for the worse. Instead, tell me it inspires you to help others with misfortune in their lives to live a better life.