Communication: Communication is one of the most important aspects of a successful and sustaining marriage. This includes verbal and non-verbal (behavior, facial expressions, gestures, writing, etc.) communication. Most marriages go through rough times, which can change the way spouses communicate with each other. Many couples develop bad habits and create destructive patterns when communication isn't going well, which can directly affect your marriage. which can directly affect your marriage. Start by asking simple questions like "are we OK?" and work it out until you are comfortable asking deep questions such as "is my marriage over?", it is not easy but it will be worth it.