Consider the size of the venue and your budget when making this list. 4. Choose an officiant: Decide who will perform the ceremony. This could be a religious leader, a friend or family member, or a professional officiant. 5. Plan the ceremony script: Work with your officiant to create a ceremony script that reflects your values, beliefs, and personalities. Include readings, vows, and any other elements that are important to you. 6. Select music: Choose music for the ceremony that sets the tone and enhances the atmosphere.