Consider the possible reasons for the affair. Keep in mind infidelity can occur for a variety of reasons and that reason may be unique to your relationship with your spouse. To help keep your marriage together after your spouse discovers your affair or you admit your affair, it’s important to be willing to be transparent and honest. If you discover your spouse is having an affair, think about reasons why he or she may have cheated. Ask your spouse if they know the reasons they had the affair, and if certain factors were at play that may have lead to the affair. There are many factors that can contribute to infidelity, some of which have nothing to do with sex. Possible factors include:
- Sexual attraction to someone other than you, and deciding to act on this feeling rather than suppress it.
- Feeling a strong emotional connection to someone.
- Confiding marital issues to someone else other than you.
- Developing unrealistic fantasies about someone and being blinded by these fantasies.
